Dear V, Ah, my sweet girl. You are such a handful these days, I don’t often have time to stop and write. You are almost 28 weeks old. The butterflied time of true viability. You are deliciously chubby and weighed 20 lbs (9 kg) at your six-month appointment last week. You’re also 27 ⅓ inches long (tall?), which means you’re…
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The Phrase “Don’t Give Up”
A few days ago on Twitter, I had a conversation with several people about how the phrase Don’t Give Up, though said with the best of intentions, can ultimately prove hurtful to many people in the infertility community. I tried to engage Resolve on Twitter but wasn’t having much luck until someone else chimed in. Then the person behind @resolveorg…
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Parenting After Infertility
“Making the decision to have a child – it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ” – Elizabeth Stone Parenting after infertility isn’t the raw, serrated pain that never goes away. It’s a dull ache that flares up occasionally, like old bones before a thunderstorm. Sometimes that ache is…
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Outing Myself for #NIAW
In a few hours’ time, I will be posting the following status update on Facebook. It’s National Infertility Awareness Week and I’m stepping out far beyond my comfort zone. Infertility affects 1 in 8 couples, so chances are you are or know someone who is struggling / has struggled with infertility — that is, aside from me. Many of you…
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If We’re Friends on Facebook
A week ago, at my first Tribe de Mama meeting, I outed myself in front of 25 other women. I was the only person who shared that she’d struggled with fertility until the last person spoke. She was sitting almost directly opposite me and look me straight in the eye to say she could relate, but that she was the…
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How to Tell Your 6-Month-Old She was Conceived via DEIVF
Before I cycled, I was sort of freaking out on Twitter about how to tell my (hopefully) future kid that he or she came to us via the egg donor we’d just picked. It was November 2013 and you might say that’s when shit got real. Fortune shone a light on me in that moment. Marna from Parents via Egg…
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Rambling On
Last night, DH and I talked about the baby’s birth in detail for the first time. He’s chosen not to think about it too much, whereas I think about it every day. I’ve been doing some reading. The Dr. Google kind. I know, I know…Hear me out I’m not totally freaking out just yet, which is why I haven’t written…
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Unmasking My Truth at the Art of Infertility exhibition
I’m delighted to announce that a piece of art I submitted to the Art of Infertility (@ArtofIF) exhibition has been accepted into both its Calabasas exhibition and its permanent collection! Here is the artwork I submitted along with a 400-word artist statement: My miscarriage and subsequent infertility diagnosis were two of the most devastating and traumatic experiences of my life….
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Overwhelmed
I have a strong, healthy, and easygoing baby and an abundance of milk. Life should be plain sailing, amiright? But honestly, I sometimes feel quite overwhelmed. V is almost five months old. Apparently by now she should be waking only once a night to feed. Apparently she should be napping regularly during the day. I hate the word ‘should’. It…
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The Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award
The fabulous My MRKH Musings has nominated me for this fabulous award! Thank you! I am finally getting round to doing my post! The Rules: Link to the person who nominated you. Add the award logo. Answer the questions your nominator asked. Nominate 7 other blogs. Ask your nominees 10 questions. Here are my answers: If you were a character…
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