It’s National Infertility Awareness Week, and this year’s theme is #FlipTheScript.
What If My Kid Wants to Meet Their Donor?
When I first embarked on this alternative family-building journey, my brother asked me this very question. It’s a great question, and one I’ve been asked many times since!
My response has always been: We will do everything in our power to make that possible. If we had chosen to create our family through adoption, I wouldn’t feel threatened by a birth mother, so I don’t feel threatened by my egg donor. I am V’s mama. End of. (We refer to our egg donor by her real name.)
One of the first steps DH and I took when choosing a donor was to ensure she was willing to be contacted in the future. Maybe our future kiddo/s would want to meet her. Maybe they wouldn’t. But the way we saw it, it wasn’t our decision to make. If we had chosen an anonymous donor, we were closing a door that never had a chance to open. I, and many donor-conceived people and parents like me, believe that’s wrong. Instead, by choosing a donor who was willing to be contacted, we created a situation where our children would one day be able to choose for themselves.
I’ll be posting something here on OFT, as well as on Instagram (@OnFecundThought and @TheTryingTimes) every day this week.
And because I’m “out-out” about our infertile struggles and how we came to create our family, I’m also sharing to my personal Facebook and Instagram accounts too. #FlipTheScript