It’s National Infertility Awareness Week, and this year’s theme is #FlipTheScript.
What If My Kid Wants to Meet Their Donor?
When I first embarked on this alternative family-building journey, my brother asked me this very question. It’s a great question, and one I’ve been asked many times since!
My response has always been: We will do everything in our power to make that possible. If we had chosen to create our family through adoption, I wouldn’t feel threatened by a birth mother, so I don’t feel threatened by my egg donor. I am V’s mama. End of. (We refer to our egg donor by her real name.)
One of the first steps DH and I took when choosing a donor was to ensure she was willing to be contacted in the future. Maybe our future kiddo/s would want to meet her. Maybe they wouldn’t. But the way we saw it, it wasn’t our decision to make. If we had chosen an anonymous donor, we were closing a door that never had a chance to open. I, and many donor-conceived people and parents like me, believe that’s wrong. Instead, by choosing a donor who was willing to be contacted, we created a situation where our children would one day be able to choose for themselves.
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I’ll be posting something here on OFT, as well as on Instagram (@OnFecundThought and @TheTryingTimes) every day this week.
And because I’m “out-out” about our infertile struggles and how we came to create our family, I’m also sharing to my personal Facebook and Instagram accounts too. #FlipTheScript
I agree with Evelyn . Wonderful trio this week . It’s similar to our adoption story . We want Malia to meet her birthmom in Vietnam and Malia wants to meet her. We almost went this past November 2017 but due to schooling issues we’ll have to make it a different time . This is a conversation we’ve had with Malia since she was very young .
The trio will become a series of 7 posts! I think you’ll really like the last one, this Saturday :)
I think it’s awesome that you are planning on going back to Vietnam to find M’s birth mother. Do you have a sense of where she is, or will you have to track her down once you land?
Loving your short and powerful series this week!
And I love YOU! Your unwavering support these past 5 years has been a wonderful gift. So grateful to have you in our lives!