I think there are a lot of feelings/fears/insecurities in the egg donation community about whether kids will/do look like their parent. There are so many posts/stories from DEIVF parents of how much their kid looks like them, so I wanted to share what it’s like when your children don’t look like you. In the early … Read More about Not sharing DNA with my kids allows me to see them for who they are—not who I assume they are
Are you my mom?
“You’re not my real mom!” “I hate you!” These might be the words that donor conception parents fear the most. Not me. When I was pregnant with Miss 9, I had the good fortune to be approached by Marna Gatlin and Carole LieberWilkins to develop their book, Let’s Talk About Egg Donation*. I benefitted from their decades of … Read More about Are you my mom?
How to Talk to Your Kindergartner About Egg Donation
“So you see how the two balls of Play-Doh got mixed up together and shared the colours and glitter and smells? Well, those are like Play-Doh stories. And that’s kind of what happens when eggs and sperms meet—they share all sorts of stories and they become one NEW thing: You, and brother, and sister!
NIAW 2020: What You Don’t Know is… Having a Baby Cures Childlessness—Not Infertility
Normal parents are our well-meaning friends and families, the people who effortlessly procreate and are able celebrate others’ joyful pregnancy and birth announcements. Normal parents are the strangers in the store whose innocent question about your baby’s red hair quietly reminds you that you couldn’t pass on your own DNA. Normal parents are the fertile population that doesn’t understand that having a baby cures childlessness—but not infertility.
NIAW 2020 Book Giveaway!
I’ve paired up with Julie from Happy Together Children’s Book to host a book giveaway! She is giving away a copy of her book, Happy Together, an egg donation story, and I’m giving away a copy of Let’s Talk About Egg Donation. Side note: aren’t our girls’ hands so cute holding the books their mamas … Read More about NIAW 2020 Book Giveaway!
GIVEAWAY: Let’s Talk About Egg Donation
et’s Talk About Egg Donation is filled with dozens and dozens of real stories from real people who built (or were in the process of building) their families with the help of an egg donor or embryo donors. It does a great job of walking you through the process of egg donation—from diagnosis to how to talk to your kids (and other people!) about egg donation, and everything in between!⠀
Sarah Pitlyk is a Danger to Our Community
I am no less a mother because I partnered with an egg donor. No less a mother because I can’t conceive without fertility treatment. No less a mother because I am doomed to miscarry using my own DNA.
How to Survive Miscarriage
My first miscarriage was the first time my heart was broken. Earlier this year, a friend reached out to me after her miscarriage. Her heart was broken too, and she wanted to know how to get over it. I share with you now what I shared with her.
All Undue Time
Remembering my sweet #MizukoBean whose undue date was this day six years ago.
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have a 6-year-old boy, my genetic child. Would he have looked like me? Would I have recognized other features from my family of origin in his little face and body?
How to Talk to Your Preschooler About Egg Donation
I made a video of me talking to V about her—and her siblings’—conception + birth story. For the first time, I sat down with a pen and paper to illustrate the story.
