Two years ago today, it was confirmed Mizuko Bean had died inside me. One year ago today, two little dots — one of whom became V — were transferred to my uterus. Today I posted this double-fact on Twitter and someone asked what I would tell the me of two years ago. I’ve been thinking … Read More about February 26th Confessional
365 Days Old
I’ve been getting a little sentimental recently. It started when the lovely Waiting for Bumble came to San Diego recently to do DEIVF at the same clinic we used. We’d never met before, but I felt like I was greeting an old friend. Over the days that she and her man were here, just three … Read More about 365 Days Old
Facebook and Kids: To Share or Not to Share
When my daughter was born, I emailed the details of her birth accompanied by a few pictures. I explained that DH and I didn’t want photos of her to be uploaded to any form of social media, including Facebook. For years I’ve cringed at how many photos parents willingly share of their children online — … Read More about Facebook and Kids: To Share or Not to Share
Hello, Mum!
The past couple of weeks I feel like I’ve been finding my groove with V. I’m finding the time to post more often, so this is a quick post to say that I probably won’t post anything in the next couple of weeks. The reason is a happy one. My mum and stepdad live in … Read More about Hello, Mum!
Three Months
Dear V, Today you are three months old. Last night, your dad was holding you as I brushed my teeth and remarked on just how much like a baby you look. I laughed and teased him, reminding him that you are a baby… He responded that the Happiest Baby on the Block author says that … Read More about Three Months
My Child Looks Nothing Like Me
When people see me out and about with V, their third question is always Does red hair run in your family? The short answer is no. I’ve got quite good at deflecting the question. Outwardly, I smile and let them know DH had red hair when he was three; but I say nothing about Nellie’s … Read More about My Child Looks Nothing Like Me
Birth Story Part 2: Recovery
{ Read Birth Story Part 1: Delivery here. } After DH left the OR, he called my dad to let him know the baby was born and that things weren’t going so well for me. He texted my brother, Teddy, in London. As it happened, Teddy was with our mum, step-dad, and sister. And then … Read More about Birth Story Part 2: Recovery
Two Months
In 2000, the year DH and I met in Paris and later began our trans-Atlantic relationship (him in Connecticut, me in London), I kept a diary where I wrote something every single day. Just a line or two, enough to remind me what I did that day. Fourteen years later, it’s fascinating to read what … Read More about Two Months
A Thousand Words
Dear V, You are almost seven weeks old. It’s been longest blink of an eye I’ve ever known. Days and nights are short, but I feel like I’ve known you forever. Already I can’t imagine not knowing you. If a picture says a thousand words, then a thousand words must paint a picture. Here’s what … Read More about A Thousand Words
One Month Old!
Aka 25 Things I’ve Learned Since Giving Birth Postpartum Observations 1) Despite not having less sleep in your life, you somehow manage to power through the day. I’ve gone from needing seven hours of sleep to functioning almost as well on what I call “a sustained fuck all” — maybe getting up to pee every … Read More about One Month Old!