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The More Things Change…

FET

6 Sep

Since my first baseline ultrasound a couple of weeks ago, I’ve returned to the clinic three times. The first baseline ultrasound showed a golf ball-sized cyst on my right ovary, so I was told to reschedule a new baseline appointment when I got my period (which was supposed to reboot my system). Aunt Flo showed … Read More about The More Things Change…

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Unmedicated FET Cycle Begins — Or Doesn’t…

FET

23 Aug

I had my FET baseline ultrasound yesterday. Or, not quite. Read on… A Quick Recap August / September I was supposed to do an unmedicated FET in August, but a communication SNAFU at my clinic means transfer won’t happen until September. (I was told to call on CD1 in July but they should have told … Read More about Unmedicated FET Cycle Begins — Or Doesn’t…

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So, no big deal, but I wrote a book

Art Projects· OFT The Book!

12 Aug

I’ve written a book. An actual full-length legit book about my journey to motherhood! It’s based on this blog (which served as an excellent collection of notes), but I’ve woven in a few things I haven’t shared here. After all, the book has to be radically different from this blog, amiright? Here’s the printed first … Read More about So, no big deal, but I wrote a book

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How to Talk (to Me) About Egg Donation

DEIVF· Motherhood· Talking About Egg Donation· Thoughts

31 Jul

Earlier this year I wrote a post about how I wish more people would be open about egg donation – both the people who did it, and the people who didn’t, and anyone who avoids mentioning it or responding when I bring it up in conversation (thankfully not many). Positive Language Choices Even though new … Read More about How to Talk (to Me) About Egg Donation

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Setbacks

Grief

28 Jul

I am really upset. About lots of things. Our FET won’t be happening next month because the SHG is happening next month. We told our RE back in March that we wanted to do a transfer in August, and I was told to call on CD1 in July. Obviously, I should have been told to … Read More about Setbacks

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FET Mock Cycle II

Infertility· TTC

19 Jul

Last week’s mock cycle baseline appointment revealed a quiet reproductive system (this was good news). I went back today (CD10) and told the nurse, H, that I felt I was gearing up for ovulation and that she’d see activity on my right ovary. H looked amused and curious. To her astonishment, I was right — … Read More about FET Mock Cycle II

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A New Chapter

DEIVF· Grief· Motherhood· TTC

11 Jul

It’s CD2 in July, which means I called our clinic to let them know I was ready to come in for a mock FET cycle. Tomorrow I have CD3 blood work drawn and my first of many dildocam dates. We’re trying for an unmedicated single embryo FET, mainly because I am still breastfeeding. I don’t … Read More about A New Chapter

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18 Months

Motherhood· Thoughts

11 May

Eighteen months. That’s how old my girl is. A year and a half?! When they say the days are long and the years are short, they’re not kidding… Here’s a quick update about Miss V. Looks & Colouring Her eyes are still bright blue, but take on a green colour when she wears green. Her … Read More about 18 Months

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Guest Post for Art of Infertility (NIAW)

DEIVF· Grief· Infertility· Motherhood

28 Apr

I’m honoured to have been approached by the ART of Infertility to write a post about parenting after infertility. Here’s a quick excerpt to whet your appetite! “For me, parenting after infertility has given me some unexpected blessings. First and foremost, I have this amazing little girl in my life. She’s affectionate, smart, talkative, mischievous, … Read More about Guest Post for Art of Infertility (NIAW)

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Miscarriage and Infertility Scars

Infertility· Miscarriage· Motherhood· Thoughts· TTC

5 Apr

There’s been some recent talk online about how having a baby magically erases the pain of infertility. I really hope this is true for some people. It’s just not true for my friends and me. There’s this myth: having a baby resolves infertility. Nope, says I. Having a baby resolves childlessness. Just because I have … Read More about Miscarriage and Infertility Scars

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