Before giving birth to me, my mother was pregnant with another baby. She had a miscarriage, and that person wasn’t born. When I was young I used to ask the question: was that my brother or was that me? Who was trying to manifest at that time? If a baby has been lost it means that conditions were not enough for him to manifest and the child has decided to withdraw in order to wait for better conditions. “I had better withdraw; I’ll come back again soon, my dearest.” We have to respect his or her will. If you see the world with eyes like this, you will suffer much less. Was it my brother that my mother lost? Or maybe I was about to come out but instead I said, “It isn’t time yet,” so I withdrew.
No Death, No Fear
Thich Nhat Hanh
Yes! This is exactly the sentiment I was thinking about yesterday after I read your first post. There’s a beautiful chapter about this exact thing in Baby Catcher, a book I would highly recommend to you in a month or two. http://www.barnesandnoble.com/listing/2688380436558?r=1&cm_mmca2=pla&cm_mmc=GooglePLA-_-Book-_-Q000000633-_-2688380436558 Such a poignant and laugh-out-loud funny book. But the chapter when she talks about her miscarriage stays with you.
Thank you, Jolly, for everything xx
Okay, don’t get the book, but here’s the excerpt. I emailed it to you, but for other readers, here it is: http://babybumpapp.com/community/groups/89-miscarriage-and-grief/posts/417010-spirit-babies—excerpt-from-baby-catcher-by-peggy-vincent.
I love this perspective. My Dr. told me something similar when I miscarried. She said that the little soul would be back someday, but it wasn’t ready yet.
My DH read it to me last night and it brought tears to my eyes. I love that you heard it yourself. Thank you for stopping by <3