I knew [your miscarriage/grief] would not be straightforward. These things, when they occur (and they ALWAYS occur unexpectedly), strike deeper than we imagine. Once the “practical” side of the tragedy has played itself out, one is left with one’s Imagination. That faculty that allows us to trawl through our feelings and reactions and to dredge up every possible scenario with which to punish or comfort ourselves depending on our mood and attitude. This emotional dredging can stir up too many feelings sometimes and become overwhelming. Don’t be overwhelmed; accept that the emotions you now feel, ALL of them, are part of a natural process. Embrace them if you can. Love them even. Wait for the silt that clouds the river to settle once again and when the water is once again clear and bright, only then will you know who you are and what your true feelings are.
He is right, Lauren. It’s part of that process of finding our way back to where we need to be. We may be at a different starting point than where we were once we get to point B, but we know where we stand once we process it all. It took me a long time to process it. Some days I still wonder but it is not like it was when it first happened by a long shot. It’s part of grieving. (HUGS)…
What a beautiful message, and such true words. Hard as it is, I think your dad is right that we need to embrace all those feelings and let them flow. I am glad you have people around you who not only try to ‘get it’ but can offer love and support as you navigate this time. Sending you hugs Lauren.